2025年1月21日：【被人辱骂，该如何应对？】How to Respond When Insulted?
⧉ 前几天，在线上读书会中，有位莲友问道：「若被人辱骂，该怎么办？」
我回答：「最好的方法就是不去理会。」
当然，如果确实是我们冒犯了对方，就应当真诚道歉；但若是在毫无缘由的情况下被人辱骂，就不必耗费心神为此伤心。因为辱骂本身就带有强烈的负能量，若我们还要深陷其中，那不是让负能量加倍吗？岂不太吃亏！
正如我过去常说，别人把「垃圾」丢过来，我们最好不要去接。讲到这里，就让我想起寒山与拾得最著名的对话：
昔日寒山问拾得曰：
「世间谤我、欺我、辱我、笑我、轻我、贱我、恶我、骗我、 如何处治乎？ 」
拾得云：
「只是忍他、让他、由他、避他、耐他、敬他、不要理他、再待几年你且看他。」
值得一提的是，「骂」这个字由两个「口」组成，若只有一个人口不择言，真正的「骂」是骂不起来的。所以古德说，不去理会是最好的回应，就好比在寂静的房间中，声音无法回响。
更好的是，如果对方骂我们一句，我们便回一句「南無阿彌陀佛」——如此一来，什么业都「消了」，也许对方还会「笑了」：怎么这个人如此有趣呢？
想来想去，还是极乐世界最好。正如佛陀所言：「其佛国土尚无恶道之名」，那里连恶声都没有。在娑婆世界中，我们只能暂且回避；而到了极乐，就能真正永离恶声。南無阿彌陀佛
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English Translation: How to Respond When Insulted?
A few days ago, in an online study group, a fellow practitioner asked, “What should we do if someone insults us?”
I answered, “The best approach is simply not to engage with it.”
Of course, if we truly have offended the other person, we should offer a sincere apology. But if we’re insulted for no apparent reason, there’s no need to waste our emotional energy feeling hurt. Insults themselves carry strong negative energy—if we get drawn in, aren’t we doubling that negativity? That would be quite a loss.
As I often say, if someone throws their “trash” at you, it’s best not to pick it up. This reminds me of the famous exchange between Hanshan and Shide:
Hanshan once asked Shide:
“In this world, people slander me, deceive me, insult me, mock me, belittle me, despise me, hate me, and lie to me. How should I deal with it?”
Shide replied:
“Just bear it, yield to it, let it be, avoid it, endure it, respect it, pay it no mind. Then, after a few years, just look and see what happens.”
It’s worth noting that in Chinese, the character for “to insult” (骂) is formed by two “mouth” radicals. If only one person is hurling indiscriminate words, a true “insult” never really takes shape. As the ancient masters said, ignoring it is the best response—just like in a silent room where no sound can echo.
Even better, if someone insults you, respond with: “Namo Amitabha Buddha.” That way, any negative karma is dispelled. Who knows, the other person might even laugh: “How interesting this person is!”
All things considered, the Land of Ultimate Bliss is truly the best. As the Buddha said, “In that Buddha-land, there is not even the name of the bad realms,” and therefore no harsh words of any kind. In this Saha world, we can only try to avoid negativity for a while; but once we are reborn in the Pure Land, we will forever be free from unpleasant sounds.Namo Amitabha Buddha.
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